The gist of 27 habits:
Habit #1 - Build successful beliefs
- Develop a strong positive/optimistic mindset
- Take a journal and jot down the moments where you achieved something notable. Example: Winning a college competition. The point is to remind yourself of your greatness and abilities.
- Accept that it's totally alright to commit mistakes. Don't be ashamed of your failures. Instead, write down the knowledge you gained from it.
- Being pessimistic takes you 'nowhere'. But being optimistic takes you 'somewhere'.
Habit #2 - Affirmations and Belief
- Come up with your own affirmations. Example: Saying to yourself that everything will be alright, that you can complete the project within the deadline.
- The affirmation can be short and simple. Chant it several times during the day. When you're doing an activity, try saying your affirmation out loud. Example: Come on! Let's do this.
- For the best results, say it before you hit the bed and after you wake up.
Personal Take: After you wake up, say 'Let's roll' loudly and get on to make your bed and daily chores. Once you make it a habit, you'll be starting your day in a powerful mood.
Refer Research article about the effects of positive self-affirmations.
Habit #3 - Mindful breathing
Meditation/Mindful breathing poses - Source: The way of meditation blog
Talks about how mindful breathing can refresh both your mind and body. For the detailed procedure/information, please perform a google search on the particular pose.
Habit #4 - Think about your thoughts
- Try not to dwell on every passing thought.
- Through the art of meditation, you'll learn how to detach yourself from thoughts. If you give in to them, your focus would be all over the place.
- If a negative thought crosses your mind. Leave it. Don't probe it or take it into consideration.
Habit #5 - Be Forgiving
- Take deep breaths when you get into tiffs with people around you
- Be aware of the emotions you feel and try to control them
- Filter your opinion during an argument. Don't lash out at the people just for the sake of making your point.
- Forgive others and yourself. Things can always go wrong and people make mistakes. Holding grudges or being hard on yourself for a mess you made isn't going to make things better.
Habit #6 - Be Thankful
- Express gratitude.
- Be thankful for the blessings you have in life. It will improve your emotional well being and improve your satisfaction.
- Write down your strengths and achievements and be proud of who you are. Be confident.
- Thank people when they help you and check on them once a while.
Habit #7 - Experiment a lot
- Try something new every day
- Listen to a new genre of music, watch a documentary, play a puzzle game, etc.
How it helps?
By doing something new and novel, you get to experience new feelings and most importantly, you learn to handle new hurdles, challenges, etc, When you encounter the same in real life, instead of panicking, you would instead come up with a strategy to overcome it.
Habit #8 - Be Curious
- By digging deep into matters that interest you, a huge wealth of information can be gleaned.
- It will also improve your cognitive power as it sparks the functionality of different areas of the brain.
My Take: Rather than scratch the surface of a topic, make a dent.
Habit #9 - Overcome fears
- Instead of chickening out, face the fear. Challenges aren't meant to stop your progress but to improve your abilities.
- Do things that are outside your comfort zone. If something scares you, do it. If you don't, it'll keep popping up at different stages of your life and you'll forever be whimpering in fear at the sight of it.
- Make a list of your strengths and figure out ways to improve on them.
- Even if you are good at just 2-3 things, try to become the best at it.
Habit #11 - Live your life to the fullest
- Life has so much to offer. But most of us limit ourselves and are bogged down by the problems at hand.
- Create a positive mindset and take a look at the beauty of life. Enjoy each and every moment, for there is someone out there, wishing for a life that you have now.
Habit #12 - Be flexible
- You cannot control the outcome, but only the process.
- Try not to assert control over things that are beyond your reach. If someone irritates you at work persistently, ignore them, and focus on your work. Their behavior and attitude can't be controlled by you. So it's better to turn a blind eye at them.
Habit #13 - Smile
- Smile often. Give yourself a pat on the back for what you've done. Example: After a 20-minute intense exercise, smile and feel happy about your progress.
Habit #14 - Body Language
- Your body language has a direct impact on your mood and overall well-being.
- Stand up straight, sit upright, straighten your spine, walk properly.
- Maintain eye contact while talking with someone, don't slouch.
- Having the right body language will project yourself as a person with strong leadership qualities.
Habit #15 - Filter your circle
- Foster meaningful relationships
- Let go of regressive relationships
- Identify the persons who add value to your life
- Surround yourself with likeminded people who share the same goals as you
- Be with people who express healthy criticism as they'd help you become better
Habit #16 - Networking
- Take conscious efforts to establish good relationships with friends and family
- If you miss someone, meet or call them and ask about their well being
- Attend professional gatherings, lobby around and meet new people, learn from them
Habit #17 - Spending quality time with loved ones
- Make it a point to allot the weekends for spending time with family/loved ones.
- Go to an amusement park or engage in recreational activities with your spouse and kids.
- Time spent on loved ones is never wasted.
Habit #18 - Show affection
- Express your love for others openly. If you love someone, if someone helps you a lot, be vocal about how they make you feel
- Not only will it warm their hearts, but it will also strengthen the relationship.
- Don't wait for a special occasion to profess your love. When you are at work, text your friends and family that you miss them and that you love them so much. Might take just a couple of seconds for you to send, but it'll mean a lot for the recipient.
Habit #19 - Seeing the good in every situation
Personal Take: 'Failure is not when you fall down. It is when you refuse to get up'. When you fail, it's natural to feel bad. If you feel like crying, do it. But once you're done wiping your tears, analyze where you went wrong and come up with theories and strategies to overcome the problem. Every time you fail, the solution would appear even more clear.
Picture Source: Thomas Edison Muckers
Habit #20 - 3 Keys of Resilience
- Have a purposeful goal (Set meaningful goals)
- Believe in yourself (Trust and have faith in yourself)
- Embrace change (Nature is never constant. It keeps changing. Adapt to them.)
Habit #21 - 3 Levels of Honesty
- Be honest about what you think
- Be honest about your feelings
- Be honest about what you do
- Meditate every day (preferably morning)
- Accept the fact that you can’t solve all of your problems ie. things beyond your control
- Spend time outside. Talk a walk, meet new people, go to different places and experience new feelings
- Find a mentor. He/She can be a living persona or a historical figure. If you love Elon Musk, read articles and books about his life, work ethic, etc, and implement those habits in your life.
- Millionaire’s Mindset: Being persistent and goal-oriented. (Never giving up)
Habit #23 - Investing in the things that matter
- Create a list of Personal & Professional activities and evaluate their value. If you’re doing something that takes up a lot of your time but doesn’t yield equivalent results, then it’s better to prune them.
- Find out which of the activities are Progressive and Regressive. For example: Enrolling in a singing class even though you have no intention to become a singer is a regressive activity. On the other hand, any activity that aids your personal/professional life is a Progressive activity.
- Read books every day and get familiarised with the concepts pertaining to your domain.
- Visualize your goals and ideas.
- If an idea seems crazy at first glance, don’t drop it. Analyze and see if it can be developed better.
- Hang out with friends who are good in their fields. Build relationships with them.
Habit #24 - Habit of Planning
- Breakdown a big goal into smaller achievable tasks
- Keep a short-term and a medium-term goal to achieve the long-term goal
- Create Daily, Weekly, and monthly To-Do lists
- Eat an ugly frog in the morning - Complete the hardest task on the list as soon as you wake up
- Go through your To-Do list every night before you sleep and plan your course of action for the next day.
- Set compelling rewards. Example: Treat yourself with a bar of candy after you cross a physically laborious task off your list
Habit #25 - Staying Focused & Confident
- Focus on your dreams more than the difficulties: When we encounter hurdles, our spirits dampen and we start to doubt our abilities to surmount them. Don't let the problems obscure your vision of the ultimate goal.
- Get up early: Successful people are the early risers. Also, develop a pre-sleep routine, where you can engage in relaxing activities. Example: Reading a book, Taking a shower.
- Fall in love with the process and not the reward. That sort of mindset will keep you going till the end.
- Set up a social media account to showcase your talent and establish relationships with like-minded people.
- Help others by sharing your expertise and don't expect anything in return.
Habit #26 - Think Long Term
- Keep a long term goal and work towards it every day. Stay committed to it.
- Celebrate lightly when you hit new milestones.
Personal Take: If your long term goal is to become an author, keep that target at the back of your mind and make sure you are on the process to achieve it. It's very easy to lose sight of the bigger picture if you focus on everyday tasks. However small it may be, take efforts to inch forward towards your goal. Example: Writing 500 words every day.
Habit #27 - Invest in yourself
- Make a list of monthly fixed expenses and allot a part of your salary for that.
- Try to save at least 10% of the remaining money (savings)
- Create multiple income streams - Blogging, eBook writing, buying stocks, etc,
- Take care of your health - Go for regular health checkups, Get insurance for you and your family, etc,
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Published March 10th, 2017 by Createspace Independent Publishing
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